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I finally managed to connect with a friend who was evidently having a very busy two weeks. We chat about everything under the sun, and get all our housekeeping chores done at the same time - it's a great arrangement. I got all my clean laundry folded.

Somehow, her teenager appears to be taking after neither his mother nor his father, but after me. In that, he is "not realizing his potential" (oh, I saw that on a report card so many times) - he's following the pattern I did in school - getting As on the tests, but Fs on the homework. Although I think I generally got pretty good class participation grades. I just always saw the homework as so pointless and such a waste of time (and there are studies that back me up on that).

It's funny, but I think being able to skate through school like that put me (and others) at a real disadvantage. Yes, DISadvantage. I don't really know how to study. Or take good notes. And the few topics that I was not able to at least partially grasp the first time through - I really have no concept of *how* to learn them. It's like I either get it or I don't, with no in-between. I think the people who had to work a little, who have a system for that, are better off in the long run.

One of my aunts has two kids, one of which was more like me, and one who had to work a little harder, and she felt like the second way was better too. Because for people who almost always have it easy, when you *do* hit something hard, you don't know how to deal with it, and you just give up. Anyone else feel like that?



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Oct. 21st, 2009 10:31 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I'm another who skated through school easily, and ended up at a disadvantage. Same thing, never learned to study, never learned to take notes.
Oct. 21st, 2009 10:42 pm (UTC)
I'm sure everyone who hated us in school would be so happy to hear it turned out to be a disadvantage. Although I'm not sure they would share that opinion.

I wonder if all of them had the same learning style - I took a few tests, and I'm an auditory learner, meaning that lecture is about the perfect way for me to learn almost anything. I would bet they (auditory learners) tend to have the easiest time in school, because it really is set up to cater to that style the most.
Oct. 22nd, 2009 12:48 am (UTC)
That noise you hear is your mother banging her head against a wall. "I told you so." The funny thing is that I learn by writing. I have to make notes, outlines, etc. to get things etched in my brain. My mind wanders when I listen.
Oct. 22nd, 2009 01:05 am (UTC)
Yes, that is *exactly* how I felt and how I feel. My sister is the one who had to work, and boy did she, and boy is she successful. I have nothing to show. If I liked a class I did great, if I didn't like it, I put in enough effort to pass. I could have done *so* much better, especially when I look back and see all the time and opportunities I wasted. Yea, I have nothing to show except embarrassment.
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